Tips for Co-Parenting
Separation usually serves as a test run before couples take the plunge and jump headfirst into divorce. Testing what life would be like while living apart or even seeing other people is a common way many choose to transition into their next chapter. This preemptive method is a good one for many couples, but it can get complicated overnight when there are children involved. Whether you are separated and pondering a future without your ex or are already sure you don’t want to stay in your marriage, successfully co-parenting during this time is essential.
Consider the following when it comes to co-parenting with your ex:
- No matter how much it hurts, you have to put your emotions aside and control any negativity from seeping into your home life. Focus solely on your children and how to make this transition as seamless as possible for them. Keep your children as unaffected as possible by never criticizing or fighting with your ex in their presence.
- If communication with your ex was easy, you might still be together. As you can imagine, communication after separation or divorce is more crucial than ever. Apologize when necessary, show restraint when you want to lash out, and keep the conversations child-centric.
- Prepare your child for change by enabling the transition. Pack in advance, establish a routine, and give your child space to process things on his or her own. Never make your child feel guilty for “leaving” you when they visit their other parent.
- Above all else, you have to view your ex as a teammate with whom you have a mutual goal. You must agree on important factors regarding your child such as discipline, scheduling, medical needs, education, finances, and so much more.
Agreeing on anything with your ex can feel impossible when you are in the midst of a breakup. Settling on a custody arrangement you both approve of is certainly a challenge, but it is one our legal team at Bremer Whyte Brown & O'Meara wants to overcome for you. We review the specifics of your situation and ensure you and your family’s needs are elevated above all else.
At Bremer Whyte Brown & O'Meara, we understand there are few ways to emotionally and financially prepare for what divorce can bring. This is why our divorce attorneys strive to enact a plan of action aimed at promoting your best interests. Nothing is as important as ensuring your family life stays intact despite the many changes and struggles to come.
Our legal team is prepared to hear from you at any time. Contact us by calling (949) 229-8546
Blog Author: Attorney Nicole Whyte
Nicole Whyte is a founding principal of Bremer Whyte Brown & O’Meara, LLP.
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